Let’s face it: Sometimes, relationships end. It’s the cold, hard truth, but it’s real.
When your relationship turns sour, it is important to recognize that. Don’t pretend your relationship is fine if it isn’t. Take the time to analyze what you feel is going wrong.
I’d advise to take some time for yourself and reflect. What do you want out of the relationship? Has something changed? Have you changed?
Maybe your priorities from the beginning of the relationship have become different. Maybe the distance is getting to be too much, or maybe your feelings have changed.
If any of these are the case, understand that it’s okay. Not every relationship ends in happily ever after.
After you’ve reflected and determined whether or not you feel continuing on is the right choice, talk to your partner. Because of the distance, this is extremely difficult. Break ups over the phone are extremely hard, but it is necessary to have this talk as opposed to leading someone on.
Be prepared for tears, whether they be from you or your partner. Stick to your guns in what you want to say. If your partner isn’t being supportive, they may argue and fight you on this issue. But the truth is, when you take the time to analyze what you want, you’ll see that your state of mind earlier was a lot more clear than it is mid-break up. You were in a sane state as you decided your next move, but you may not be while on the phone crying.
However, that isn’t to say that you shouldn’t listen. Maybe you’ve forgotten all the sweet things they’ve done for you. Just realize that an emotional state isn’t the healthiest for important decision making.
If you both decide that the break up is necessary (whether you decided or not), just accept the decision. A minute, an hour, a day later you may regret the decision, but remember why you did it. Keep a list of reasons why you’re happier or a new to-do list handy to remind yourself that it was a good decision. This way, you can always remember that there was a reason behind all of this.
Remember that life goes on. If you’ve made this person your whole world, this will be difficult, but you need to move on. Long distance relationships have the advantage of being away from their partner, so you don’t have to worry about awkward run ins or anything of the like. Focus on improving you.
Keep busy. Don’t fall into a usual pattern of sitting around and waiting for the phone to ring, because it won’t.
Make some changes in your life. Routine will make you miss your partner because everything will remind you of them. Join a gym or make new friends. This is your chance to branch out and become someone you may not have been in a relationship.
Embrace being single! There’s nothing like being newly out of relationship. Enjoy the time you have to make new life choices without anything holding you back.
Relationships end. Life goes on, and so do you. You’ll make new choices and fall in love again, guaranteed.